Anxiety Archives - Cesar's Way https://www.cesarsway.com Official Site of Celebrity Dog Behaviorist Cesar Milan Fri, 30 Sep 2022 20:23:10 +0000 en-US hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.0.3 https://www.cesarsway.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/07/cropped-CW-32x32.png Anxiety Archives - Cesar's Way https://www.cesarsway.com 32 32 Persistent Dog Anxiety And Fear https://www.cesarsway.com/persistent-dog-anxiety-and-fear/ https://www.cesarsway.com/persistent-dog-anxiety-and-fear/#respond Mon, 26 Oct 2020 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/persistent-dog-anxiety-and-fear/ Cesar, I have a two-year-old Pomeranian who is afraid of everything; and so worried about things falling on him.  Although since I’ve had him (about one year), nothing has fallen on him.  He even approaches his food dish as if a snake will attack at any minute. Drinking water is the same, he is always prepared […]

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Cesar,

I have a two-year-old Pomeranian who is afraid of everything; and so worried about things falling on him.  Although since I’ve had him (about one year), nothing has fallen on him.  He even approaches his food dish as if a snake will attack at any minute.

Drinking water is the same, he is always prepared to run away. I have tried to show calm and assertive direction and a matter-of-fact attitude. Is there anything more I can do?

Alice Jackson

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Dear Alice,

This sounds like a self-esteem problem, so you must approach it delicately. We want to challenge the dog physically and mentally with things like obstacle courses, busy environments, and any situation in which the dog can get feedback from other, more confident dogs. I once worked with a dog named Luna, who was afraid of everything. Even the wind scared her; she would come into a room and see “ghosts.” Every part of her would be on hyper alert – her nose, her eyes, her ears – and everything would make her afraid. I rehabilitated her by helping her self-esteem to blossom, and that’s all about exposing the dog to many different situations.

Helping a dog build self-esteem is a very, very long process, and not nearly as fast as aggression rehabilitation. You have to build confidence slowly, and the way you build it is by helping the dog to repeatedly accomplish small goals. Practice obedience training, practice obstacle courses; they don’t have to be champions, but they have to go out and do it. With every success comes a little more confidence.

Choose the right trainers. The trainers are going to help you to find the right energy in yourself, to help provide the support your dog needs. You have to be thinking about that rehabilitation, and about training yourself just as you train your dog. To do that, YOU have to have a good role model. The role model will guide and ensure that your dog is always getting the best out of you. Remember, it takes time, dedication, and patience above all else. Good luck.

Stay calm and assertive,

Cesar Millan

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One of the most common phrases used by owners to describe a dog that appears stressed when the owner leaves home—or just leaves the room—is separation anxiety in dogs.

We can define separation anxiety as a dog problem behavior that shows itself through symptoms like excessive salivation, barking, whining, destroying items in the home, scratching at walls, doors and floors, and attempting to escape from the crate, or room.

Simulated vs. True Dog Separation Anxiety

There is true separation anxiety, and there is simulated separation anxiety, in which the dog behavior appears to be separation anxiety but it is, in fact, a learned behavior.

Simulated separation anxiety is often manifested when the dog lacks leadership as well as self-control. True separation anxiety, on the other hand, causes the dog to experience real stress during the absence of his owner.

In simulated separation anxiety, the dog knows that he will get attention if he acts badly. For some dogs, even being verbally reprimanded for such behavior is rewarding because he feels he was noticed.

Negative attention can be a reward in many cases, if the owner is unaware that certain needs of his dog are not being met. In these cases, there is little real stress involved, just misbehavior.

Simulated separation anxiety is fairly easy to overcome with a gradual approach, slowly increasing the amount of time spent in a crate—when you are at home as well as away—consistent obedience training, proper amounts of exercise, and strong leadership.

Severe cases of true separation anxiety impose a challenge to Pack Leaders.

Causes of Dog Separation Anxiety

Dog separation anxiety is often unknowingly encouraged by dog owners. We make a big fuss when we leave or come home, and in doing so we reward the dog’s concern with our absence, provoking in him even more stress every time we leave.

We like our dogs to be with us and when they are puppies, we take them everywhere for socialization. Then, we have to leave them alone, but they reach an age when they not only want, but also feel the need to be with us—we are their source of confidence, their security, and their pack.

Resting basset hound

A change in their routines can create the symptoms of dog separation anxiety, but destruction and stress can also be created by boredom and lack of exercise. Terriers are born to dig, retrievers to carry and protection breeds to protect. So, in some instances we are holding them back from their instincts and drives, rather than nurturing them.

Remember Cesar’s mantra, which is a good start to correcting these problems: “exercise, discipline, and only then, affection.” You need to establish a balance between patience, obedience, and confidence in your dog.

Aim to develop a behavior in our dog that reflects the harmonious partnership you both share. He should have enough confidence in himself and in your leadership. This way, he can be confident in situations, such as being left alone, because he knows that you will always provide the leadership and guidance required. He trusts and knows that you will come home.

How to prevent dog separation anxiety

Vets may prescribe drugs, which tend to calm a dog’s senses a little, but they are not a cure. Drugs only provide a support mechanism to assist the owner in rehabilitating the dog, it is only a temporary fix for the underlying problem. You have to treat the root cause.

It really starts the moment you get your puppy. All too often a puppy taken from the litter begins to cry when left alone. This is a big change for the pup, they no longer have the pack they were born with. When he cries, we go and pick him up and show sympathy—his crying is rewarded. Later, if he is crying in a crate, and you let him out he is being rewarded for his crying. Only reward desired behavior.

From the beginning, we need to teach our pup to be quiet and settle down for increasing periods of time. We need to teach patience and calmness and reward that instead. When he is out with us, we should not be attempting to constantly interact with him. Let him learn to entertain himself with his toys.

Teach the pup to accept the crate. Allow him to explore under supervision and to learn the limits and boundaries of his environment; to gain respect for this environment, and for the people in it. That means consistency in all the things you do, and that includes everyone in the family who interacts with your dog.

The importance of obedience training and discipline

I believe much of the cure for separation anxiety comes from obedience training and discipline. This approach lets your dog know what is expected of him, helping his good behavior to become a habit. He feels wrong showing an unwanted behavior even without you indicating it. Take advantage of that.

Spend time training—not just classes once a week—often and consistently. Show your dog what you want from him in and around the house, and during daily routines. Two minutes here, five minutes there. Not just going for a walk but training him as you go to sit at curbsides, and sit when meeting others, people and dogs.

Teach your dog to sit at the door, lie down, and stay while you go out of sight for increasing periods of time in your own house. Train your dog to sit and wait to be greeted by guests, move aside when you go to the refrigerator, and go to the bathroom on cue. In general, you should be teaching your dog in small steps to be a respectful and have confidence in himself.

Rehabilitation begins by having your dog know what is expected of him. You and other members of your family are the pack leaders, and you need to be recognized as such, not as dictators, but as leaders. For example, if your dog comes up to you and nudges your hand, or slaps you with his paw. You think this is cute and he is petted. This becomes a habit, and now your dog thinks “I am in control and I can tell you what to do.” Then, when he cannot carry it out, he becomes stressed.

Crate Training to Avoid dog Separation Anxiety

When you are home, have your dog familiar with being in the crate. Start with short periods and then increase the time he spends in it. Feed him in the crate, let him have his favorite bone to be used as a stress reliever while he is in there.

Some toys are developed to entertain, or occupy your dog when you are away. I prefer to use such interactive toys only when I am present. These work because your dog’s mind is stimulated while attempting to remove treats from a toy, which then relaxes his mind, and he sleeps.

Do not put water in the crate—that can get very messy! The crate should be your dog’s safe haven, a place he feels secure and enjoys. It should be big enough for him to stand upright without his head touching the top, and he should be able to turn around and lay down easily.

If he barks in the crate, look for ways to control that. Teaching him “quiet” is good, and interrupting the barking so he learns there is no reward from it also works. In extreme cases, a good bark collar can help control the dog’s barking in your absence. No one wants annoyed neighbors, and this device will correct him when you are not there.

When you leave him, do so quietly and don’t provide cues. Do not say anything. Go through your leaving routine quietly, pick up car keys, open garage doors, and start the car. Then, come back inside paying no attention to your dog. Do what you always do when leaving—role-play if it helps. Come back in your home once more, and pay no attention to your dog. Walk past him, wave and smile if he is quiet but if he is banging at the crate, ignore it and walk away.

Come back and wait until he is quiet, and then ask him to wait in the crate while you open the door. He should not come bursting out. If you feel one action, such as putting on a certain pair of shoes, picking up your car keys, going to a certain door, brings about the beginning of stress, then do that action and do not leave. Get him so familiar with the action that he accepts it.

Place a cage-type crate in the busiest room in the house. The goal is for your dog to accept all the normal every-day movements, noises, and happenings within your home. Your dog must realize it is not necessary for him to be involved in everything because you are the one in charge.

You can always have more than one crate if, for example, you want your pal to sleep in the bedroom next to your bed. Covering the crate with a sheet when you leave gives the feeling of a den and your dog may like the crate better this way.

All of my dogs enjoy music and the TV, so I leave it on for them. It provides a familiar background sound and sight for them giving them a feeling of security.

Change Your Routine

It is possible for your dog to recognize a series of actions, you have to be clever. Changing your dog’s habits often means changing your own and that can be difficult—we are creatures of habit—but you’ll have to change your routine.

Use a different door, put your coat and bag in different places. Make changes to create a different picture. If you are watching TV, or working on the computer, and your dog gets up every time you get up, simply get up and sit down again.

Your dog does not have to follow you everywhere. Yes, he can watch but he should be able to wait until you request his company. These little changes will help teach your dog to have the self-confidence he needs to handle being alone.

Separation anxiety can be overcome, you can turn some dogs around fairly quickly, with others it takes time, patience, and consistency.

Exercise, obedience, and lifestyle training; leadership; rules, boundaries, and limitations, all of these are necessary for a balanced dog. Consistency from you and from every human in your household will be also crucial to build your dog’s confidence in you as his Pack Leader, and also in himself.

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Were you able to rehabilitate your dog from separation anxiety? Please tell us in the comments how you did it.

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Is Your Dog Addicted To You? https://www.cesarsway.com/is-your-dog-addicted-to-you/ https://www.cesarsway.com/is-your-dog-addicted-to-you/#respond Sat, 29 Aug 2020 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/is-your-dog-addicted-to-you/ Like dogs, humans can experience separation anxiety, although usually for rational reasons. People generally don’t feel anxiety because their spouse went to work or their kid went to school. But it’s normal to feel it if your spouse works as a firefighter, or it’s your kid’s first day at a new school; worse if your […]

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Like dogs, humans can experience separation anxiety, although usually for rational reasons. People generally don’t feel anxiety because their spouse went to work or their kid went to school. But it’s normal to feel it if your spouse works as a firefighter, or it’s your kid’s first day at a new school; worse if your kid is a teen who just got their license.

The Power Of Love

There is one irrational reason humans will have separation anxiety, though. That happens when we fall in love. When the object of our affections isn’t around, nothing feels right in the world. If you have experienced it (or are now), you know exactly what it’s like — a general sense of anxiety and restlessness.

If you’ve felt that, then you know what a dog feels when it has separation anxiety.

Now, when people fall in love, they wind up causing each other to produce a chemical in their brains called oxytocin. While it’s been wrongly called the “love hormone,” it actually does a lot of other things, but one of those things it does is to cause two people to bond.

It does this by affecting the pleasure centers of the brain, much like other psychoactive chemicals do. It’s the same process that makes some chemicals, like alcohol and heroin, so addicting — and yes, love can be an addiction as well. Keep in mind, too, that I’m referring to all kinds of love, including romantic, familial, and platonic.

The Power Of Brain Chemicals

But I’m bringing up human neurochemistry because, as it turns out, the exact same thing happens with our dogs. Studies have shown that we give each other oxytocin rushes, especially when exchanging eye contact. That’s right: We may love our dogs, but our dogs are, at least chemically, in love with us as well.

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Oxytocin

 

Now, if you have a healthy, balanced, and trusting relationship with your dog, they’re probably not going to freak out when you leave them alone. Even though it’s totally unnatural for the leader to leave the pack behind in nature, if you create stability and a safe den for your dog, they’re going to be okay if you leave them alone on a regular schedule.

What causes the dog to starts having problems is when the schedule is unpredictable, or the relationship is not calm and balanced in the first place. In those cases, when the human leaves they’re taking that oxytocin rush with them and bringing the dog down from those happy feelings. It’s really not that different than yanking the drugs out of an addict’s hands — or cutting a kite’s string on a really windy day.

Of course, the best way to keep your dog from feeling this way in the first place is to make sure that they are balanced, but it’s even possible to cause a balanced dog to feel separation anxiety, and that has everything to do with how you treat the separation.

Be Aware of Your Actions and Habits

It may seem counter-intuitive, but the best way to leave and return to your dog is to not say a word to them. Don’t make a big deal out of leaving, and do not come back home acting excited to see them again, even if you do  — and we all know we do, right?

Adding excitement to the situation before you go will leave your dog with excess energy, which is going to channel right into anxiety. They’ll wind up either pacing around in a nervous state, or resorting to random destruction. And you’re not just adding excitement — you’re giving attention, which builds up the oxytocin, which enhances that same effect of being separated from a loved one that humans can feel.

You’ve probably heard the expression “Absence makes the heart grow fonder,” and it’s certainly true among humans. But, for some dogs, this expression might better be “Absence makes the mind grow frantic.” As a Pack Leader, it’s your job to do the counterintuitive for the well-being of your dogs.

In the case of separation anxiety, this means don’t fuel the fire — and do not feel guilty about ignoring your dog when you come and go. There’s plenty of time for affection when you’re going to be around and after your dog is exercised. She can’t put it into words, but she’ll definitely show her appreciation if you never give her any reason to be anxious about your departures.

Stay calm, and keep your dog balanced!

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What Are Common Dog Behaviors? https://www.cesarsway.com/common-dog-behaviors-explained/ https://www.cesarsway.com/common-dog-behaviors-explained/#respond Thu, 17 Oct 2019 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/common-dog-behaviors-explained/ Communication begins with understanding. If you want to build a better relationship with your dog, you can start by working to understand the meaning and causes behind some of her most common dog behaviors. Here is a list of common dog behaviors and what they mean. Some Prevalent Behaviors in Cannines Dog Panting Because dogs […]

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Communication begins with understanding. If you want to build a better relationship with your dog, you can start by working to understand the meaning and causes behind some of her most common dog behaviors. Here is a list of common dog behaviors and what they mean.

Some Prevalent Behaviors in Cannines

Dog Panting

Because dogs sweat through the pads on their feet, most of their body heat is expelled through their mouth when they pant. It’s their primary means of regulating body temperature. Dogs also pant to cope with pain.

Dog Barking

In nature, dogs bark to raise an alarm at the first signs of possible danger or to herald a new arrival. Barking is an important means of canine communication. See What your dog’s bark is telling you.

Dog Chewing

Just as a growing child, your dog will want to chew on toys and other objects to relieve the pain of a new set of teeth coming in. If your dog is full grown, you may also come home to find your couch cushions or favorite pair of shoes ripped to shreds, but it is not because they enjoy the taste. Your dog could be exhibiting signs of separation anxiety or anxiety in general. See 5 steps to correct inappropriate dog chewing.

Dog Digging in Your Yard

Digging is an instinctual activity, written deep in a dog’s DNA. It is especially strong in terrier breeds. Dogs in natural packs will dig to hide food or to uncover food such as small rodents. A den dug in the cool earth can also provide shelter from the heat. See Cesar’s dog training advice on how to get dogs to stop digging.

Jumping Up

Though it may seem like play behavior, or an enthusiastic greeting, jumping up is a sign that your dog is attempting to assert her dominance over you. By encouraging jumping up with affection, you are reinforcing the behavior. See Cesar’s training video on how to deal with dogs jumping when excited.

Dog Biting

A dog will bite a person as a way of communicating their current state of mind. The dog could be reacting in aggression, fear or nervousness. There are, however, ways to prevent a dog bite from ever happening if you stay in tune to the dog’s body language. See Dog bites 101: Why bites happen and how to prevent them.

Separation anxiety

Dogs live and travel in packs, so it’s natural for them to feel anxious when they are separated from their pack-mates. Try taking your dog on a nice, long walk before leaving her alone in the house. Leaving her in resting mode can calm her anxiety.

Once you understand these behaviors, you’ll be better equipped to recognize when your pack’s needs are not being met! When your dog’s needs go unfulfilled, unwanted behaviors begin to emerge. Consider: Are you giving Exercise, Discipline, then Affection?

How has your dog misbehaved lately, and how do you plan to solve the issue? Share your story in the comments.

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Aggressive Dog With Separation Anxiety https://www.cesarsway.com/aggressive-dog-with-separation-anxiety/ https://www.cesarsway.com/aggressive-dog-with-separation-anxiety/#respond Thu, 01 Aug 2019 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/aggressive-dog-with-separation-anxiety/ Dog with Separation Anxiety Growls at Owner Hi Cesar! My little Frankie is three years old. I have had him since he was born. I have never had a problem with his behavior until the past few months. It seems every time that I leave the house to go to work or go out on […]

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Dog with Separation Anxiety Growls at Owner

Hi Cesar!

My little Frankie is three years old. I have had him since he was born. I have never had a problem with his behavior until the past few months. It seems every time that I leave the house to go to work or go out on the weekends to run errands he gets upset. He does not destroy anything in the house, but when I go over to him to say goodbye and pet him right before I leave the house he growls at me. The first time it happened I was shocked and let it go. But now it occurs all the time, and I am not sure how I am supposed to handle this aggressive behavior. Can you tell me why all of sudden he would have changed his behavior? Is it a reaction to something I am doing or maybe not doing?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

C. DiPalo
Long Island, NY

Cesar’s Advice for Aggressive Dog Separation Anxiety

Hello DiPalo,

When your dog growls at you as you approach, he’s already showing you “I’m tense, I’m nervous, I’m fearful, I’m unsure,” and if you continue to move forward, this reaction will only intensify. The best thing we can do for a dog in this state of mind is to give them space – to ignore that aggressive behavior; let him deal with it and eventually, because you’re not nurturing it, it will go away. Remember, when we say “goodbye” to our dogs before we leave, it’s often to fulfill our own, very human feelings of guilt and anticipation. If you can’t help yourself and you must say goodbye, try to say goodbye earlier, before he is in that troubled state of mind. This way, you’re fulfilling your own need to love your dog without encouraging the unwanted aggressive behavior that you’re seeing when you say goodbye right before you leave for the day.

Stay calm and assertive,

Cesar Millan

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Mourning Your Dog https://www.cesarsway.com/mourning-dog/ https://www.cesarsway.com/mourning-dog/#respond Mon, 29 Jul 2019 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/mourning-dog/ Dear Cesar, Just a few days ago we had to put our 10-year-old dog down. She left behind her 8-year-old “sister.” Nikki seems to be moping around the house and seems like she’s in search of her sister, the only thing she’s ever known. It’s heartbreaking. Please let us know what we should or should […]

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Dear Cesar,

Just a few days ago we had to put our 10-year-old dog down. She left behind her 8-year-old “sister.” Nikki seems to be moping around the house and seems like she’s in search of her sister, the only thing she’s ever known. It’s heartbreaking. Please let us know what we should or should not be doing. This is hard for us as well and even heartbreaking just to watch her go through this. We don’t want to give her attention when she’s in this state.

Thank you,
Alicia Hirtzel
London, Ontario Canada

Hi Alicia,

First, I offer you my condolences, as I understand how hard it is to lose a canine family member. Take your time to mourn, but also think about moving on. Think about what it looks like, how it will feel, and be positive about the change in your lives. This way you’re creating a plan and intention – that’s the first step to healing and moving forward. You’re right to not give affection while your dog is in that depressed state. That only encourages it to continue. One of the best things you can do right now is to switch up your routine. Dogs love routine, but in this case, something has already shifted the routine with the passing of Nikki’s packmate. Go to new environments where there is no memory of them being together, introduce new smells and activities, get new dog beds or toys, and be conscious of how you’re thinking and feeling. This is a perfect time to include friends with dogs to come visit with their dogs and let your dog make some new friends of her own. Remember, that this will pass, and with time, you will form a new routine and new chapter of your lives will open. Honor the dog that passed however you need to or what feels right. I was able to heal from the loss of Daddy by helping others and still today, his memory lives on in the dogs and people whom he was able to bring balance to.

Stay calm and assertive!

Cesar Millan

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Scared Of Sounds Inaudible To Humans https://www.cesarsway.com/scared-of-sounds-inaudible-to-humans/ https://www.cesarsway.com/scared-of-sounds-inaudible-to-humans/#respond Tue, 18 Jun 2019 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/scared-of-sounds-inaudible-to-humans/ Do You Have Issues With Your Dog When it Comes to Sounds We Humans Cannot Hear? Below you will find a letter from one of our fans and my answer in how to deal with this issue. _____ Hi there, My dilemma is my nine-year-old Border/Queensland mix Scarlet has trouble with noises.I do my best […]

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Do You Have Issues With Your Dog When it Comes to Sounds We Humans Cannot Hear?

Below you will find a letter from one of our fans and my answer in how to deal with this issue.

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Hi there,

My dilemma is my nine-year-old Border/Queensland mix Scarlet has trouble with noises.I do my best to redirect and distract. It seems to do her some good to put on the leash and ‘work her’ while she is troubled. This is something that I am still working on, providing that I can hear what she hears. Sometime there are ‘noises’ that I can’t hear the make her tremble, shake, and seek out a safe place. What would I need to do during these times? Do I deal with it the same way, or is there another approach to dealing with the unheard noises?

Please send the answer quick. She gets so scared I worry about her health when she is like that. I will keep doing what I am doing unless you say otherwise.

Thanks so much,

Sheryl Davis
Tuolumne, CA

 

Cesar Millan’s Answer:

 

Hello Sheryl,

You should always use whatever works, so if your dog becomes relaxed when she gets into a working mode, that’s what you should do for her. After a while, the leash will become a powerful psychological tool – once the dog has associated the leash with work, she will begin to calm down once the leash is on. That’s when you can start re-directing her behavior.

Remember to have patience. You can’t put a time requirement on recovery; it’s about repetition, and you may have to work a long time to see the positive results you want to see. It’s impossible to know when that day will be. Just be sure that you approach her treatment with calm energy and leadership, and not with frustration. It’s natural for a human to ask “Why?” when repetition doesn’t yield immediate results, but that is a HUMAN reaction. For dogs, there is no “why?” there is only “now.” Until your treatment creates a different “now” for your dog, there’s still work to be done. That’s rehabilitation.

Good luck, and as always remember to…

Stay calm and assertive,

Cesar Millan

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Your Dog Has A Secret https://www.cesarsway.com/your-dog-has-a-secret/ https://www.cesarsway.com/your-dog-has-a-secret/#respond Sat, 20 Jan 2018 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/your-dog-has-a-secret/ I hate to break it to you, but your dog is an addict. She may appear absolutely normal and function perfectly well, probably follows commands (usually), and plays nicely with others at the dog park. But if she doesn’t get her fix regularly, it can make her a little crazy. What is Your Dog Addicted […]

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I hate to break it to you, but your dog is an addict. She may appear absolutely normal and function perfectly well, probably follows commands (usually), and plays nicely with others at the dog park. But if she doesn’t get her fix regularly, it can make her a little crazy.

What is Your Dog Addicted To?

If this description seems harsh, then it’s because humans tend to associate the word “addict” with the word “drugs,” and you probably have an image in your mind to go with it — some disreputable looking person, dressed shabbily, lying in an alley with a needle in their arm.

I’m sure that doesn’t describe your dog, or you. But dogs and humans are addicts, and for the same reasons.

Our brains have been designed to reward us for experiences that release certain chemicals that make us feel good. Whether we’re consciously aware of it or not, we — and our dogs — will return to those experiences for the pleasure we get.

It’s easy to see how drugs, legal and otherwise, and other substances like alcohol, tobacco, and caffeine can fit that pattern exactly. A lot of drugs are designed to make us feel good, whether they’re narcotics to help us sleep, painkillers to overcome aches and injuries, or stimulants to give us energy. They are referred to as psychoactive substances for exactly that reason — they have an effect on the mind.

But they are not the direct cause. They’re only responsible for releasing the chemicals I mentioned previously, which are all naturally occurring in our brains. And this is why people can become addicted to other things that don’t involve drugs — exercise, hobbies, sex, binging TV shows, and on and on. Anything that a human can do can become an addiction when done to excess, although some addictions can be healthier than others. Exercise is much better for you than heroin, for example.

Does it Affect Behavior?

Dogs are no different. They will generally have a healthy addiction to exercise and to routine. Give a dog enough exercise and a regular schedule, and you will help prevent them from developing unhealthy addictions. Fail to fulfill their needs and like humans, they can fall prey to all kinds of bad, repetitious behaviors, like excessive licking, chewing their paws, chasing their tails, urinating in the house and separation anxiety.

Addictions are just habits that can’t be controlled and they go out of control because our dogs — and we — gradually begin to associate a reward with the behavior. Running marathons can release endorphins into the human brain, and these are feel-good chemicals. It’s not uncommon for people who start any kind of intense physical activity to not want to stop, and this is why.

Sharing affection releases another chemical, oxytocin, which is involved in maternal bonding with children and romantic bonding in a couple. This chemical also flows through dog’s brains when we are showing them affection.

This is exactly one of the mechanisms with which we can give our dogs bad addictions. When we give them affection, their brains flood with oxytocin. This surge of good feelings conditions them to associate whatever they were doing when they got that affection with a way to get that affection again.

If that seems familiar, it’s because that’s exactly how human addictions happen. We do something. Our brain gets flooded with feel-good chemicals. Consciously or not, we make an association between the two, and begin to repeat the behavior that made us have happy feelings, regardless of whether it is good or bad for us.

Figuring Out and Fixing Bad Behavior

Fortunately for our dogs, once we recognize their bad addictive behaviors, it should be easy for us to figure out why they think they’re being rewarded and then work to reverse the association. Just pay attention to your own behavior in relation to theirs, recognize the signals you send that suddenly put your dog into that addicted mode, and then work your way back to the cause from there before working forward to the solution.

Then, while you’re doing all this, think about anything you might do that you would consider an addiction, then separate the positive, benign ones from the negative and dangerous ones. Focus on the latter, and then follow the same process you did with your dog to work your way back to your cause.

And that is probably the best way that you can help your dog and vice versa. Because they are instinctual and not intellectual, when we learn how to put ourselves into their minds we can learn so much about our own, and learn to understand our own behaviors as we strive to fix theirs. Since they are our greatest teachers, they can also help us do more than try, and lead us to actual achievement.

So the next time your dog tears up the TP, or pees on the rug, or eats your favorite shoes, step back, ask yourself why she may have done it, then ask yourself how you might have made her do it. Find the intersection of the answers to those questions, you’ll solve both of your problems.

Stay calm, and listen to your dog’s instincts!

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Cesar Picks Six Audiobooks To Calm Your Dog In December https://www.cesarsway.com/cesar-picks-six-audiobooks-to-calm-your-dog-in-december/ https://www.cesarsway.com/cesar-picks-six-audiobooks-to-calm-your-dog-in-december/#respond Tue, 12 Dec 2017 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/cesar-picks-six-audiobooks-to-calm-your-dog-in-december/ The holidays can be hard on your dog with your frequent absences while shopping or attending holiday parties.  You can reduce your dog’s separation and promote her calm and relaxation by playing audiobooks while you’re out. That’s why Cesar teamed up with Audible, the leading provider of spoken word content and audio entertainment, to provide […]

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The holidays can be hard on your dog with your frequent absences while shopping or attending holiday parties.  You can reduce your dog’s separation and promote her calm and relaxation by playing audiobooks while you’re out.

That’s why Cesar teamed up with Audible, the leading provider of spoken word content and audio entertainment, to provide you and your dog with a hand-picked selection of audiobook titles to keep her calm when her pack isn’t around.

Each month, Cesar adds more audiobooks to his recommendations. For December, his pick, perhaps unsurprisingly, is A Christmas Carol: A Signature Performance by Tim Curry. “While dogs don’t comprehend the words they hear,” says Cesar, “I couldn’t resist sharing this holiday tale with my Pack.  Tim Curry’s narration provides well-balanced energy for helping dogs relax during the holidays.”

If you and your dog prefer a female narrator, Cesar’s pick of the month is Anna Karenina (Unabridged), read by Maggie Gyllenhaal. “Ms. Gyllenhaal’s ease in reading this classic is ideal for calming your dog.”

Cesar’s other picks for December include:

Life of Pi (Unabridged) by Yann Martle, read by Jeff Woodman.

Tuesday’s Promise: One Veteran, One Dog, and Their Bold Quest to Change Lives (Unabridged) by Luis Carlos Montlavan and Ellis Henican, read by Kevin Free.

The Possibility Dogs: What a Handful of ‘Unadoptables’ Taught Me about Service, Hope and Healing (Unabridged) written and read by Susannah Charleson.

A Wrinkle in Time (Unabridged) by Madeleine L’Engle, read by Hope Davis.

To learn more about Audible audiobooks for dogs, watch videos and get free audiobooks, visit Audible.com/dogs.

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Cesar Picks Six Audiobooks To Calm Your Dog In November https://www.cesarsway.com/cesar-picks-six-audiobooks-to-calm-your-dog-in-november/ https://www.cesarsway.com/cesar-picks-six-audiobooks-to-calm-your-dog-in-november/#respond Tue, 07 Nov 2017 00:00:00 +0000 https://www.cesarsway.com/cesar-picks-six-audiobooks-to-calm-your-dog-in-november/ Did you know that listening to an audiobook while their humans are away can reduce a dog’s separation anxiety and destructive behaviors while promoting calm and relaxation? That’s why Cesar teamed up with Audible, the leading provider of spoken word content and audio entertainment, to provide you and your dog with a hand-picked selection of […]

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Did you know that listening to an audiobook while their humans are away can reduce a dog’s separation anxiety and destructive behaviors while promoting calm and relaxation?

That’s why Cesar teamed up with Audible, the leading provider of spoken word content and audio entertainment, to provide you and your dog with a hand-picked selection of audiobook titles to keep her calm when her pack isn’t around.

Each month, Cesar adds more audiobooks to his recommendations. For November, his pick is A Tree Grows in Brooklyn by Betty Smith.  “As an immigrant myself,” says Cesar, “I found the story of Francie Nolan, a young Irish girl who pursues and achieves her dreams despite the many obstacles, especially touching.  The narration has just the right amount of energy to calm and relax a dog.”

If you’d prefer a male narrator, Cesar continues, “I suggest All the Light We Cannot See: A Novel, read by actor Zach Appelman.”

Cesar’s other picks for November include:

Off to Be the Wizard by Scott Meyer, read by Luke Daniels.

Peter Pan by J.M. Barrie, read by Lily Collins.

Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte, read by Thandie Newton.

David Copperfield by Charles Dickens, read by Richard Armitrage.

To learn more about Audible audiobooks for dogs, watch videos and get free audiobooks, visit Audible.com/dogs.

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